Warm Memories

After Spiritlights 'Fathers Day' topic i thought that I would post a new topic where members can post all those lovely,loving memories of loved ones that are now in the world of spirit. You can post memories that you hold dear about those you love and the memories you shared with them if you want to. Also if you want to just leave your loved one a message as if you were talking to them, then you can do that as well. Basically 'in loving memory' section.

It's totally up to you as i know some people prefer to keep their thoughts and feelings private and that's fine, but some people like to share their memories with others. Even memories of their pets as well. It's totally up to you.

Claire x

I guess the memory i hold fondest is of my dear gran who past away when i was in my very early twenties. I was very close to my gran as i lived with her from a very early age, not really knowing my mum, and i didnt have a dad. So my gran was the closest thing i had to a parent. I always remember her very active, she used to wallpaper for other people, corner shops too. I always went with her and they always gave me bags of sweets. i guess my gran must have been in her late 50 by then.

The last time i saw my gran , i remember her sat in her favourite chair, she will have been about 70 or so then. as i walked away from visiting her one sunday afternoon, i remember turning to look at her as i walked down the path to see her nodding off in the chair as she normaly did late tea time. The next time i saw her then a few days later, she was in hospital all drugged up with morphine and not really with us. i guess that time was and still is a bit of a blur for me as being the oldest of my generation, i really had to keep strong to look after my younger brothers, to make sure they were ok through this time. of course she passed away in her sleep, to start her journey to who knows where. On the day of the funeral i was asked to go and view the open coffin but i just didnt want to. i knew in my heart that if i did that, then it would over power all the other wonderful memories i had of her. to this day i know i made the right decision.

when i think of her now, i see her sat in her favourite chair, at peace, nodding off in front of the open coal fire.

That's lovely Neptune that you remember your gran like that. I totally understand about not wanting to see her in her coffin, as you want to remember your loved ones the way they always were, like for you nodding off in her chair. Glad you havent lived to regret it, as some people do for some reason.

When my grandad passed over I last saw him in his chair with his remote controls around him and sat in front of hs telly with his hifi next to him. That's where i always used to see him when he always used to channel flick and annoy us all something rotten lol there were good memories. I had the choice of seeing him in the open coffin too and i very nearly went to see him. I was really into spiritual things then and was doing readings at that time also, so thought i would be ok with it. But at the last minute, not sure if it was my mum or not said to me, it doesnt matter whether you believe in the afterlife or not,it may not be a good idea to see him in the coffin as thats how you'll always remember him rather than him sat in his favourite chair in front of his tv. Obviously my mum wasnt stopping me, but really glad she said that to me as it would have been a false memory of him and not a nice one either, sooner see him sat in his chair with his remote controls! It was unfortunate my grandad passed away in the bathroom the morning after all the family had been to see him. His friend from across the road found him and that must have been horrible memory for him, to find your friend like that, not nice in normal circumstances but his friends last memories were in the bathroom and also he was questioned by the police too cause, which is normal circumstances, but it was because his friend was the only one in the house at that time.

anyway, i am really glad now i didnt see him like that or in an open coffin. So i understand Neptune.

Claire x

You would think it wouldnt bother us to see our loved ones in their coffin (other than not wanting them to be there in the first place, obviously ) , being into this sort of thing and believing what we do, you would think it would comfort us to see them at peace and not suffering anymore. But we tend to prefer to remember them where we were used to how we last saw them.Although i suppose it depends on the circumstances, how they passed over and where. If it was not very nice, your last memories of them, then i would expect that seeing them in the open coffin would bring some comfort at least.

Love to all of you that have lost their loved ones.xx

Heavenly Girl x

I once heard it said by one of my friends who was in a simular situation, who actually did view an open coffin of someone she held close to her, that it actually comforted her. she said she could see that what was in the coffin wasnt that person she knew, but an empty shell. this helped her to realise i think that the essence , the life force if you like, that is in us all, when we die, moves on, leaves the body, so what is left is like an empty vessel, and not really that person you loved in life.

I tend to agree with that myself, if something spiritual didnt leave the body when we die, then we would look the same as when we are sleeping. it seems that when we die, some force, energy, the thing that makes us individual and who we are, does leave the body we have lived in for years, which in death, makes us look different, empty somehow.

Hope that made sense

WW

Hello WW

wiccan Warrior wrote:I once heard it said by one of my friends who was in a simular
situation, who actually did view an open coffin of someone she held
close to her, that it actually comforted her. she said she could see
that what was in the coffin wasnt that person she knew, but an empty
shell. this helped her to realise i think that the essence , the life
force if you like, that is in us all, when we die, moves on, leaves the
body, so what is left is like an empty vessel, and not really that
person you loved in life.

I'v heard people say that before. I've also heard people say sometimes that they looked like a waxed dummy and not the loved one they knew and loved. The soul leaves the body and yes all that's left is an empty shell.